I left the office on Thursday evening exhausted. The last conversation with a co-worker was draining, as I attempted to share about a situation that needed attention and struggled to be heard.
As I drove home, my mind reviewed the conversation, what I said, what the other person said, the body language, the words that were unspoken. Over and over the conversation ran, all the while I kept thinking, "how could I have handled that better?" It was just a few miles from home when the thought ran through my head, "I want to talk this over with Dad."
But I can't talk it over with my Dad. I don't get to come home and hear "Hey, Kiddo, how was your day?" I don't get to walk in the door, sit down, draw his attention away from his computer and spill the whole story. I don't get to listen to his advice. For the first time in three years and 8 months I cried tears of anger.
I haven't before felt angry with my Dad for dying. He didn't choose to get leukemia. He didn't choose for the chemo not to work or the crap that invaded his lungs to not clear up. Why be angry with him? But yesterday, I was angry at him for not being here when I needed him. Really angry...and sad.
Most days, I think about my Dad a few times throughout the day. Usually when I walk past pictures of him or while driving to or from work. Usually I can think about him without tears making an appearance. Yesterday was not that day. Yesterday I needed him and he.wasn't.there. And I was mad.
I miss my Dad. I miss his laughter, his humor and teasing...well most of it. I miss seeing him every day. I miss the sound of his voice. I miss his phone calls and emails. I miss telling him about my day and hearing feedback. I miss so much and yesterday, for the first time, I was mad at him for leaving.
The winding road of grief continues...
